What do we learn from winning or success? Pain is often a better teacher. It’s not as much fun to learn from pain or failure but the opportunity to learn is bigger than it is with our successes.
When we are lying on the ground gasping for breath there’s something to learn. Whether we are alone, there is someone leaning over offering their hand, or someone kicking us in the ribs, that is a point of view full of lessons.
Whether we see it that way depends on the story we are telling ourself. Our minds create a story to narrate our lives. In your story are you a victim or the hero? While a victim looks for blame and feels sorry for themselves engaging in self-sabotage by saying to themselves “I am not smart enough. I am not good enough. I can never do this. Life is not fair.“ The hero looks for things to learn, ways to improve and ways to grow. The hero does not look for something/someone to blame and is not afraid to self-critique.
A victim will look up from the bottom and only see the depth of the hole they are in. The hero will look for a way out and, although the climb may be difficult, they see the opportunity.